Soul Mate?
Just about everyone wants their partner to be, or is looking for for their "soul mate," their perfect match or their "Lobster." (A term from Phoebe on the TV show "Friends")
Yes, the relationship you are searching for is certainly possible; but your search will likely need to begin a little closer to home. The key to developing or finding the relationship that you seek is actually right in front of you. Just look in the mirror. |
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Think about it....
If you are hoping to find that person who will accept you for who you are, won't they be looking for someone to accept them for who they are? If you want your partner to be authentic, transparent, responsible and consistent, isn't it important that you have those same characteristics? The key to finding your match is to
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What are Principles?
A principle is "a fundamental truth that serves as the foundation for a system of belief, behavior, or chain of reasoning."
If it is your goal to become A Conscious Partner, then taking some time to work on and adopt the 6 principles below will get you heading in that direction. |
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If you are just starting this now, this is not a process that will necessarily happen quickly.
Take your time.
Do some reading. Practice the principles. Before long, it will just be second nature. |
The 6 Conscious Principles to Being “A Conscious Partner”:
We come to each other with past pain and our own set of lessons and challenges. Things that may be preventing us from moving forward. The more quickly we can recognize and manage these behaviors that inhibit growth, the healthier we are and the more we have to offer each other. It is important to be aware of our defaults in emotions and behavior, because when growth and change get uncomfortable, we will automatically retreat there. We need to recognize who we are, where we have come from and how it impacts our lives right now.
Learn more about "Recognition." "Recognizing Patterns"
Learn more about "Recognition." "Recognizing Patterns"
You are the only person you have at the end of the day. If you’re trying to do something because it’s what makes other people happy rather than because it's what feels authentic for you, you’re never going to be as happy as you could be. It's important to be authentic. Be you. Be real. It's not about being selfish, but it is important that you are living your life and not the life that someone else is dictating. Find that space to be fearlessly yourself and live from there. Learn more about being "Authentic." "Being Authentically You"
There is nothing more important than communication in any relationship. For couples to win at love, they must be willing to talk to one another about important matters. If those conversations are not transparent, communication suffers. Transparency means discussing things openly and without any hidden agendas or motives. Being able to express your true thoughts and ideas and not holding back because of a fear of repercussions. This goes right to the heart of what transparency is all about. Learn more about "Transparency." "Radical Transparency"
Here is a great quote by Theodore Roosevelt - “If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn’t sit for a month." The key to being A Conscious Partner is taking conscious control of your responses to the events and circumstances in your life. Yes, there are things that happen that are not in your control, but you are in control for how you respond. You are responsible for how you think, act, feel and react to the things that happen to you. There are huge benefits to taking responsibility for your own life.
Learn more about "Responsibility." "What it means to be responsible" "7 Thoughts on Responsibility"
Learn more about "Responsibility." "What it means to be responsible" "7 Thoughts on Responsibility"
It is important to act consistently and in harmony with the real you. To live in a way that is true to yourself and what you want your impact to be on your relationship and community. If you are not living a life that is true and consistent with your personal values, life will always feel just a little off balance. Our quality of life and relationships is diminished without this balance. We do not always get to do exactly what we want, but we can strive for our actions to be in sync with our mind and spirit. Learn more about "Living Consistently." "Consistency is Vital"
Acceptance not just of others, but of yourself as well. Accepting ourselves for those quirks and traits that make each one of us unique can facilitate our ability to accept our partners. In many cases, we criticize traits we see in others that reflect those same disliked traits in ourselves. We are all human, we all have a past, we all make mistakes. Accepting ourselves and our pasts can ultimately enhance our relationships with others, especially our romantic partners. Learn more about "Acceptance." "6 Strategies" "12 Ways To Accept" "Love, Accept, Forgive"
So what does all this mean?
Developing the skills necessary to be A Conscious Partner might appear to be a little intimidating, but it's really not. You have the majority of these skills already, it's just that many people are not practicing them "consciously." If you can make a small adjustment, you just might find that path that leads you towards a better relationship with both yourself and your partner. It will take some effort and a little soul searching at times and you likely won't be mistake-free along the way, but if you can work on these 6 principles you can certainly become A Conscious Partner. Would you like to learn more about Conscious Relationships? You might also want to consider being "Certified Conscious".
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If you have found any of this interesting or helpful and would like to learn more, our "The 6 Elements" growthshop is a great way to have some fun and learn more about the 6 Elements and how working on these traits can improve your relationships!
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The methods described on this website are the authors’ thoughts. Just some thoughts, not all of them. There is simply not a single definitive set of instructions out there for solving relationship issues. Go explore!
You may discover there are other methods and materials to accomplish the same result.