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No Hookups..... !!!

2/26/2018

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Ladies.....
Please consider not putting these comments in your profile.
You are likely scaring away the good guys!

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   Now you might think by stating this in your profile that you are sending the message to all the "players" that you are a woman who doesn't play games and is ready for a serious relationship.

     While your attempt to weed out the bad guys is honourable, the strategy itself is flawed. Just writing those words in your profile will not chase away the bad guys.....and in fact may even attract more of them. Worse yet, if a good guy does read your profile, he isn't reading it the way you might think.

     When I see this in a profile, this is what I perceive;

#1 - These words can appear to be written by someone who may be jaded and suspicious of men and might have a negative overall view of both men and the dating process. That doesn't exactly convey a glass half full message.

#2 - That rather than our first meet being fun and relaxing, I would feel like I am going being judged the whole time and perceived as a player until I can prove that I am not....and the only way I can prove that is if I get into a relationship....and I haven't even met this person yet!!

#3 - If I do happen to contact this person and we do meet, and we happen to go on a few dates, if I don't make a commitment, then there is a good chance that I will be negatively labeled as a "player".

#4 - The guys looking for hookups are not likely reading your profile anyway. I have heard numerous women state over the years that they are frustrated because men "don't read profiles". If that is the case, isn't it more important to be sending the right message to those who do?

     Besides...does it really work? Have you magically eliminated all of the "players" by posting this in your profile? Or are you maybe making it very clear that you have been played before and now you are unknowingly challenging the players to try again?

     I like analogies so I will use one here to help you understand how a guy feels when you write something in your profile about "no hookups".

     Have you ever read a profile that said "No Gold Diggers"? If and when you have, how did it make you feel? Is it a message that makes you want to contact that person? Does that comment make you think that this guy is ready for a serious relationship? Of course it doesn't. (Guys, don't put this in your profile. You will scare away the good women for the same reasons above. Also, does it maybe send the message to the gold diggers that there is maybe some gold there to dig?)

     The solution? Send the same message in a less confrontational manner. For example;
"I am looking for someone who is "conscious" about dating. Someone who is willing to allow some time to learn and understand more about me as we go and I will do the same for you!

     Simple. Positive. Effective.

     If you want to attract the good guys, keep your profile positive, use a variety of current pictures and simply ignore anyone that doesn't want to be respectful! If you aren't sure whether or not he is a player, ask him if he can describe what A Conscious Partner is. The answer to that one simple question will tell you who you are dealing with! 

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1/26/2020 03:14:27 pm

Well, finding the person God has given you is quite a challenge nowadays. A lot of people have changed and most of them are not into serious relationship anymore. That's why you need to be careful on whom you give your heart because not all people can have the willingness to take care of it. Some are just meant to be a lesson and they are not there to stay. No matter how challenging may it be, you should never lose the idea of believing that there is one special person dedicated for you!

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