I am what many might refer to as an “Alpha Male”. I have always been an athletic, confident guy with a dominant personality and the ability to lead. A stand up guy, who will open a door for a lady, help someone in distress, keep in good physical condition, won’t accept help unless I really need it and who doesn’t take any BS. Sure, a true Alpha must also have a certain level of intelligence. Smart enough to judge situations, understand them, and use them to always achieve the best possible outcome for everyone involved, but overall intelligence was not necessarily part of the definition in the past.
Times have changed. The role of the dominant is no longer held by the “bigger” and “stronger” men in the world. Sure, the women will always be attracted to those guys visually, but they are no longer impressed with mere physical dominance, they want to be seduced mentally.
If I want to maintain my spot as an Alpha male, and if I want to be attractive to my potential partners, I need to use my intelligence. I don’t need to be book smart, although that doesn’t hurt, I need to be street smart.... and worldly at the same time! I need to recognize my behaviors and understand who I am. I need to be authentic and real. I need to be transparent and be able to communicate effectively without a hidden agenda. I need to be responsible and be in control of how I think, act and feel. I need to be consistent and live my life according to my personal values, and I need to be able to accept who I am, where I am at in life and how I got here.
I need to be real. I need to be conscious.
If I want to flex something, I need to flex the muscle between my ears. I have to have the common sense to understand what I am looking for in a partner and then be the person that she would be looking for. If I am looking for a fit and attractive partner, that enjoys a wide variety of food, can watch a hockey or baseball game at a pub with me, is easy going, enjoys an active and adventurous sex life and likes to travel, then guess what? I had better be a fit and attractive guy who can help out in the kitchen, can appreciate her interests, is easy going, can be active and adventurous sexually and be ready to go when the travel bug hits.
If I want to be an Alpha Male, then I need to act like one. I am not a Neanderthal. I can’t just go bonk a woman on the head and drag her to my cave. I don’t live in the 60’s when men were just in charge because they were men. It’s 2018. If I want to impress a woman, then I need to be an Alpha Male that fits into the modern world. If I want to be a leader, then I need to lead, but I need to lead in the direction that the world is going.
If I want to find an exciting partner, then I need to be an exciting partner.
If I want to be an Alpha Male, then I need to step it up and be one.