Not being authentic can make a person feel resentment, depression, boredom, anger, and a slew of other unhappy feelings. We may feel irritated by or jealous of someone who is living their life in more authentic ways.
We may feel like we’ve just given up on our dreams of being who we want to be. We may feel like we’re missing out on something in life.
Do you feel that you might be happier if you were living more authentically?
The 4 Agreements
This event will have us taking a look at "The 4 Agreements", the best selling book by Don Miguel Ruiz. We are going to look at the 4 agreements from the perspective of couple and relationships.
Be Impeccable With Your Word
Don't Take Anything Personally
Don't Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best
Taking some time to learn and focus on any one of these agreements can help your relationship. Focusing on all 4 of them can change your relationship.
Understanding Needs & Expectations
In most relationships, it is our "expectation" that our partner will value our needs and desires as much as their own.
Needs and expectations can fuel and influence how we relate, react, and respond to everything that we do and to everyone around us. However, most of us don’t even realize that we have these expectations until we find ourselves feeling disappointed, upset, and experiencing a great deal of confusion within the struggles of life.
This event will help us see that sometimes it is our own expectations that are the problem rather than our partner.
Acceptance does not mean that we like, want, choose, or support what we are resisting. When we resist we create a struggle in ourselves that creates suffering.
Acceptance means choosing to allow something to be a part of our lives when we have no ability or control to change it at that moment. Acceptance is an active process that must be practiced consciously and on an ongoing basis. It means to accept that things change and that we make mistakes.
It also means that we can forgive ourselves for making those mistakes, live our lives without regrets, acknowledge our successes, and most of all, practice self-compassion.
The 8 Conscious Connections
Connected; it's probably safe to say that everyone would want to feel "connected" in their relationship; but what does that mean?
The "8 Conscious Connections" are designed to help couples get a better understanding of the areas where they connect well, and the topics that might require some extra conversation. These discussions, and what they reveal, are so crucial towards developing that deeper long-lasting relationship.
Let's get together and discuss all of the connections, and maybe it will unlock some doors in your relationship!
Are we living our lives just to get to the end? Does our entire life revolve around working so that we can pay bills on the stuff that we have to buy because we are told that if we have that stuff, then we will be happy? So when does all this "happy" start?
You know what? Maybe it's time to start being happy right now. Happiness has nothing to do with how much "stuff" we can accumulate. Happiness revolves around living life authentically and being content with who we are, what we do, and where we are going.
It's important to realize that “stuff” and other people cannot make us happy. Then, it’s essential to take the time to think about what makes us happy and start living life doing those things.
It’s easy to head down to the gym and sign up for the membership. It's not quite as easy to head down to the gym consistently for 5 days a week for the first month, but it's doable. What’s really difficult is doing it, 4-5 days a week, for many years in a row.
As we all know, starting things is easy. Following through for a long period of time is a lot tougher. We also know that in order to get results, we need to be consistent. We need to focus on the process and not the outcome or expectation.
To live a consistent life, we should align our words and actions, and ensure they are supported with the right intention and the appropriate amount of effort.
How Porn Impacts Your Relationship
Pornography is everywhere. It used to be something that we had to go and look for. Today, it's not only easy, affordable, and anonymous, it's as graphic as we can imagine, and as varied as our wildest dreams.
But at what price? Porn impacts our brains, our lifestyles, and our relationships in ways that many of us might never have thought, both good and bad!
Porn can have a positive impact on a relationship, but more often than not, the effects are COUNTERPRODUCTIVE to what we really want and need both personally and in our relationships.
We will address this topic “candidly,” so please attend with an open mind and with the understanding that we all have different standards when it come to sex and relationships. This is an event that will help us improve our understanding of the wide variety of ideas and options that are out there.