While we can debate all day along about what love is, it is often a little easier to help us all understand what love isn’t.
Love is not possessive. Love is not codependent.
Love is not an empty feeling. Love is not about serving someone else.
Love is not making someone else happy or “Walking on eggshells".
We would think that love has a universal meaning, but “I love you” might mean something quite different to different people.
Is love a choice? Is love permanent or fleeting? Is the love we have for a family member different than the love we have for a friend or a partner?
What are the kinds of love? What are the elements of love? What are the stages of love?
Come and join us for this epic journey to see if we can get a better understanding of what love is and maybe find out that maybe you didn't have the version that you really wanted!.
Emotional pain prevents us from healing and it’s a sign that we aren’t moving forward in a growth-oriented way.
The best way to heal from this pain is to understand why it’s there, learn whatever lessons can be learned and then continue the process of living and growing.
If we get stuck in thinking about what “should have been,” we can become immobilized in painful feelings and memories.
If you’re trying to move forward after a painful experience, come out to better understand what you are dealing with.
In most relationships, it is our "expectation" that our partner will value our needs and desires as much as their own.
Needs and expectations can fuel and influence how we relate, react, and respond to everything that we do and to everyone around us.
But most of us don’t even realize that we have these expectations until we find ourselves feeling disappointed, upset, and experiencing a great deal of confusion within the struggles of life.
This event will help us see that sometimes it is our own expectations that are the problem rather than our partner.
Relationships can be like an addiction. Just like any other addiction, there are necessary steps to take after a breakup.
Most of us lay blame. We point our fingers and are quick to spell out everything our ex did wrong, by blaming our ex, we are putting ourselves in victim mode, and that is counterproductive to getting closure.
Everything that has happened in that relationship, good or bad, is a part of our story and a part of who we are. If we reject parts of our story, we are rejecting and thus disconnecting with parts of ourselves.
Let’s discover the steps to letting go, getting closure and moving forward!
Trust: You cannot have a healthy relationship without it, and yet virtually all of us can bring to mind a scenario where our trust has been broken.
But how do we develop trust in the first place? Can trust that’s been broken be rebuilt?
As young children, we quickly learn to tell if someone is being untruthful. It may be that someone doesn’t follow through with their promises, or a parent makes threats they don’t follow through on.
As we grow older, we fine tune our expectations and behavior by learning not to trust an untruthful person, which helps protect ourselves from being let down again, so when trying to develop trust in a new relationship, it’s important that we don’t say things that we won’t follow through with.
Forgiveness means giving up the suffering of the past and being willing to forge ahead with far greater potential for inner freedom. Besides the reward of letting go of a painful past, there are powerful health benefits that go hand-in-hand with the practice of forgiveness.
Forgiveness can help us to overcome feelings of depression, anxiety, and rage, as well as personal and relational conflicts. It is about making the conscious decision to let go.
It is not about letting someone off the hook for a wrongdoing, or forgetting about the past, or forgetting about the pain. It certainly does not mean that we stick around for future maltreatment.
It is about setting ourselves free so that we can move forward in our own life.