An Emotional Connection happens when we can trust our partner "emotionally." We trust that our partner is supportive, committed, respectful, and engaged in the relationship.
It’s when we can be our true selves and not always have that “walking on eggshells” feeling.
We can tell we are “connected” when we can support each other, communicate well, understand each other and deal with conflict fairly.
Do you know what it means to have an “Emotional Connection”?
Is it Chemistry or Compatibility?
It's pretty easy to get them mixed up! Chemistry is what gets a relationship started, but its compatibility that keeps it going for the long run.
We certainly want them both, but it's important to understand the difference. In a relationship filled with initial chemistry, it's easy to miss the red flags and the incompatible traits, as there is often a cloud of sexual tension that gets in the way.
In a compatible relationship, two people can actually be quite different in many ways, but will tend to agree on the core values that dictate how they want to live their lives and build their lives together. They will strive to meet each others wants needs because they want to, not because they have to.
As we discuss in our "What is Love?" event, disruptions are a normal and key part of any healthy relationships. In fact, they might even be the MOST important part of the relationship.
It is the "disruptions" in our relationships that provide us the opportunity to build trust and respect for each other. Anybody can have a great relationship if nothing ever goes wrong, but in real life there are things that go wrong.
Do you "avoid" conflict and disruptions in your relationships? Some people believe that this is a good thing to do, but avoidance is actually the worst thing we can do in our relationships. When we take away the "disruptions, we take take away the opportunities to build trust, respect and the emotional connection we are actually looking for.
Couples that know how to handle the disruptions are the ones who have the potential to last.
Relationships are hard enough without us behaving in ways that have the potential to destroy our relationships. In most cases, we are completely unaware of what we are doing and the impact that it has on our lives.
There are some relatively obvious behaviours like poor communication and less than ideal conflict skills, but there are many others that can creep into our lifestyle with devastating effects on any current or potential relationships. It occurs so quickly that we may not even understand what is happening.
This event has us taking a look at all of the unconscious ways we act that often keep us from being happy!
If we are "Truly Connected" in our relationship, it means that we can say to our partner "I am here for you"; but what does that really mean?
It means that we have the ability and desire to listen to and love our partner in a way that let's them know that we will be there for them when they need us.
It means that we provide will do our part to be a true partner in life and that we understand that there will be times where our partner will need support and that we will be there to provide it.
We will be there emotionally, mentally and physically; to laugh with them let them know that everything will be okay!
Almost anyone that has been in a relationship that has failed has either heard or said,
"We just grew apart"
Growth is one of the only constants in life. In relationships, as in business,
the saying is the same.
"If we're not growing, we're dying".
As we grow, both as individuals, and as a couple, we will be faced with opportunity to
make the decision about whether or not we want to GROW TOGETHER, or GROW APART.
It's called "Growing" old together for a reason.