Emotional pain prevents us from healing and it’s a sign that we aren’t moving forward in a growth-oriented way.
The best way to heal from this pain is to understand why it’s there, learn whatever lessons can be learned and then continue the process of living and growing.
If we get stuck in thinking about what “should have been,” we can become immobilized in painful feelings and memories.
If you’re trying to move forward after a painful experience, come out to better understand what you are dealing with.
Everything we think and say and do has some kind of consequence attached to it. It might be good, bad or indifferent, but there will be a consequence.
Everything is interconnected and what we do will have an impact on those around us and it helps us to remember that we can't take back what we have done.
Consequences are where our thoughts and actions meet reality and we can’t always predict what the results will be, but we will have to live with those results.
We will never be perfect, and the sooner we tell ourselves the truth accept that we may have made some mistakes long the way, the sooner life will get a little easier.
Relationships can be like an addiction. Just like any other addiction, there are necessary steps to take after a breakup.
Most of us lay blame. We point our fingers and are quick to spell out everything our ex did wrong, by blaming our ex, we are putting ourselves in victim mode, and that is counterproductive to getting closure.
Everything that has happened in that relationship, good or bad, is a part of our story and a part of who we are. If we reject parts of our story, we are rejecting and thus disconnecting with parts of ourselves.
Let’s discover the steps to letting go, getting closure and moving forward!
We spend a lot of energy looking for shortcuts to save time, and sure, those shortcuts add up. But when we look back, our biggest time regrets
aren't spending too much time on Twitter or mismanaging our daily tasks.
Life is full of choices, and many of them come with uncertainty. We can never know what might have been if we had chosen differently.
No life will ever be completely clear of opportunity for regret, but some regrets are more fundamental, greater in scope. They tend not to focus on a single moment or area, but how life is lived.
This event helps us to take a look at what we are doing right and to identify a few of the things we might want to start doing so that we don’t have regrets later on!
Trust: You cannot have a healthy relationship without it, and yet virtually all of us can bring to mind a scenario where our trust has been broken.
But how do we develop trust in the first place? Can trust that’s been broken be rebuilt?
As young children, we quickly learn to tell if someone is being untruthful. It may be that someone doesn’t follow through with their promises, or a parent makes threats they don’t follow through on.
As we grow older, we fine tune our expectations and behavior by learning not to trust an untruthful person, which helps protect ourselves from being let down again, so when trying to develop trust in a new relationship, it’s important that we don’t say things that we won’t follow through with.
Forgiveness means giving up the suffering of the past and being willing to forge ahead with far greater potential for inner freedom. Besides the reward of letting go of a painful past, there are powerful health benefits that go hand-in-hand with the practice of forgiveness.
Forgiveness can help us to overcome feelings of depression, anxiety, and rage, as well as personal and relational conflicts. It is about making the conscious decision to let go.
It is not about letting someone off the hook for a wrongdoing, or forgetting about the past, or forgetting about the pain. It certainly does not mean that we stick around for future maltreatment.
It is about setting ourselves free so that we can move forward in our own life.