We have trouble understanding each other.
Many think that the world is harder on us them than it is on others, but is it really?
We all have our own burdens to carry, they are just different for each person.
We all come from different places, have had different upbringings, by different parents, in different settings. We have different educations, experiences, traumas, lifestyle, dream, and desires.
Let's see if we can find some common ground.
Cheating is rarely just about sex. In fact, there are studies that suggest that cheating for sexual gratification alone is responsible for less than 20% of the cases.
An affair is rarely the actual problem; it is usually the symptom of the problem.
Infidelity is a complicated and difficult subject to deal with in a relationship, and the best way to prevent a problem is to first understand what is happening and then to develop our skills in the areas that lead to it happening.
Being “conscious” in our relationships is a major step.
Most people ask the question “Can men and women just be friends”. The answer to that question is an easy “YES, of course they can”.
But the question is flawed. The question should really be “Do my partner and I have the security in our relationship and the emotional tools necessary to successfully maintain friends of the opposite sex (or the sex you are attracted to)?
It’s less about whether or not they can exist and how they impact relationships in general, it’s more about how these friendships may impact OUR relationship.
It’s about the jealousy that develops because of insecurity, and the feelings of disrespect that occurs when a friendship is handled poorly.
How often have you heard "relationships require sacrifice" or something close to that? Do they really?
When we look up the definition of sacrifice in the dictionary, what do we find? We will see words like "Giving up something valuable," "Killing," "Losing," "Destroying," "Surrendering.“
Should these words be part of our relationships?
Maybe there's a better word and a better way.
People often connect spirituality with religion, but spirituality is a broad concept that incorporates a vast array of very personal ideals.
True spirituality would normally involve a deep connection of some kind that many would describe as "sacred" or "transcendent", but that connection may be to anything that makes us feel "alive“ and connected to ourselves and life in general.
Spirituality is about who we are, our personal values, our ideals and how we perceive the world. It's merely the conscious recognition of who we are and how we think.
Quality Time – Physical Touch – Receiving Gifts
Words of Affirmation – Acts of Service
Many of us have heard of the 5 Love Languages, a book by Gary Chapman, but understanding each of the languages and how it pertains to our relationships is not quite as easy as we think.
Understanding love languages can go a long ways towards understanding both ourselves and our partner as we try to navigate our way towards a long term relationship.
This event gives us the opportunity to examine the love languages in real time and with real people so that we can all get a better perspective of how they can impact our relationship