Conflict in a relationship becomes harmful when we start to focus on defending ourselves rather than trying to solve the problem.
When we all were kids, at school we learned about math and science and social studies and biology and chemistry and all of the other "subjects."
We learned how to get along in social environments, bullying, peer pressure and so much more.
From our parents and friends and others, we may have learned about sports, cars, music, food, money, and even from where babies come!
We learned a lot of "rules", but did we ever really learn how to deal with conflict in a relationship?
By understanding and following the "rules", we can actually use potential conflict as a way to grow our relationships rather than drive a wedge between us.