What Does Consistency Mean?
We often hear about how important it is for our WORDS and our ACTIONS to match up,
but as we are all well aware, both words and actions can be manipulated.
Sometimes we say all of the right things, but what is the intent behind what we say?
Are we sincere?
Sometimes we do all of the right things..., technically,
but are we really trying? Are we really putting in the effort?
To be consistent in our lives and relationships,
it is important to align our WORDS with INTENT and our ACTIONS with EFFORT.
but as we are all well aware, both words and actions can be manipulated.
Sometimes we say all of the right things, but what is the intent behind what we say?
Are we sincere?
Sometimes we do all of the right things..., technically,
but are we really trying? Are we really putting in the effort?
To be consistent in our lives and relationships,
it is important to align our WORDS with INTENT and our ACTIONS with EFFORT.
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WORDS / INTENTIONS
Most of us have a natural tendency to say what we think others want to hear or to speak in a "politically correct" way. If we use this same approach in our relationships, it can be confusing, misleading, and in fact, harmful. |
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If we have something that we need to discuss, it's crucial to get to the point so that things can be addressed meaningfully. This doesn’t mean we should be insulting or hurtful in any way; we need to be direct (assertive) so that our partner isn't left trying to figure out what is meant by what we are saying. |
Say What You Mean - Mean What You Say!
If we speak to our partners, but we don’t mean what we say, who are we fooling? At best, we are misleading, and at worst, we are outright lying.
Of course, there are times when we want to be careful to avoid hurt feelings and preserve trust, but that means being diplomatic or "tactful", not misleading.
By meaning what we say, we can build trust in our relationship. It's also much easier to stand behind what we are saying.
Our partner may not always agree with what we are saying, but they will be confident that they are always getting the truth and know where we stand.
Of course, there are times when we want to be careful to avoid hurt feelings and preserve trust, but that means being diplomatic or "tactful", not misleading.
By meaning what we say, we can build trust in our relationship. It's also much easier to stand behind what we are saying.
Our partner may not always agree with what we are saying, but they will be confident that they are always getting the truth and know where we stand.
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ACTIONS / EFFORT
It’s easy to head down to the gym and sign up for the membership. It's not quite as easy to head down to the gym consistently for five days a week for the first month, but it's doable. What’s really difficult is doing it, 4-5 days a week, for many years in a row. |
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Follow Through!
As we all know, starting things is easy. Following through for an extended period of time is a lot tougher. We also know that to get results, we need to be consistent. We need to focus on the process and not the outcome or expectation. |
Consistency Applies Everywhere!
The same rule applies to us in every part of our lives. Any sport, any job, any talent, any hobby, any material thing, any relationship that we have, there is only one way to improve it or achieve a goal, Consistency.
Our success or failure will likely depend on the Consistency of our words, and actions, the intent behind the words and the effort we put into those actions.
Our success or failure will likely depend on the Consistency of our words, and actions, the intent behind the words and the effort we put into those actions.
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"Just let it go!" How many times have we heard that in our lives? Yes, it's a great idea, but what does it mean, and how do we do it?
"Letting go" is not easy, but it is one of the most important things we can do if we want to start living our lives in a way that is consistent with our dreams, our core values, and our desires. Letting go means letting go of the past, old self-images, detaching from outcomes, and relinquishing the control that we may want to have over others. We can't control them; we can only control ourselves. It means to forgive and release the weight of the history we keep carrying around. Learn more about "Letting Go" |
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Most of us like to have goals, something for which to strive. It could be anything. It could be to climb a mountain, run a marathon, visit a country, learn a language, or connect with our partner... or often many of these at the same time! Life wouldn’t have much meaning if we weren't striving for something.
Realistic and attainable goals are one of the keys to living consistently, and it works in all aspects of life, whether it be relationships, business, or individual awareness. If we have a goal, then we have a map that will guide our actions to achieve those goals. Without a map, we might get lost! Learn more about "Setting Goals" |
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Distractions are everywhere! We have a hard time focusing on and achieving our goals because there are so many things distracting us along the way.
Living consistently means not allowing distractions to get in our way. For someone wanting to lose weight, it might mean making our coffee at home because when we stop by the coffee shop, we may want to buy a doughnut too! To someone else, if their goal is to improve their relationship, it might mean turning off the Wi-Fi at night so they can focus on their partner. Learn more about "Eliminating Distractions" |
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Is there space in my life for a relationship?
Do I have time to spend with my partner? Is my living space packed full? Is there any room for my partner to join me physically? Are my interests and hobbies taking up so much time that there is no room to accommodate my partner in my life? "Am I Ready for a Relationship" |
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Commitments are more than promises. Commitments are an expression and an extension of your character and honoring what you have given your word to do.
Most often, commitments are made with the best intentions. But commitments that are not scheduled and supported by a plan of action will fall through the cracks. And when commitments are broken, the level of trust in your ability to keep commitments is compromised and degraded. Break enough commitments, and you’ll lose the trust, support, and cooperation of those around you. More importantly, you will lose trust in yourself. Learn more about "Integrity" |
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Do I have the desire to follow through with what I am committing to?
There are many times in our lives that we end up doing things that we don't have a desire to do, but we are doing them out of obligation. We find it hard to say no, so we say yes, and then we regret that we said anything at all! Why didn't we just say no? Learn more about "Desire" |
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Am I a Good Relationship Partner?
How do I show up in my relationships?
How do I show up for my partner? Do I consider myself a good partner? What even makes up a good partner? Learning how to be a better partner takes time, practice and commitment. CONSISTENCY! But the result is worth it; a stronger, more authentic relationship.
"Am I a Good Partner Quiz" |
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Do I Know Myself?
No, not my favorite colour and what I like to eat. This is far more important than that.
Who am I at my core? What matters to me the most? What is it that makes me feel alive and feeds my spirit? Conversely, what is that drains my spirit and brings me down? More importantly, do I know how to tell the difference so that I can make the right choices as I go through life. Learn more about "Know Yourself". |
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Do I have time for the commitments that I make or am I too busy?
Everyone has the same 24 hours in every day, but we make choices as to how we use those hours. It isn't that we "don't have time"; it's that we are committing our time to things that we consider more important. If we are "too busy" and committed elsewhere, then we should do our best to stop making commitments to things that are less of a priority. Learn more about "Time" "Mistakes Busy People Make" "Too Busy" |
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Have I considered all the potential barriers that could get in the way of my commitment?
It's important that we think about all the things that might go wrong before we make commitments. For example, how many people have promised to "Love and cherish til death do us part" without really thinking about what those words mean, and all of the other potential barriers ahead? Learn more about "Expect the Unexpected" "9 Obstacles" |
So What Does All This Mean?
So what does it mean to be a "Consistent Partner" in a relationship?
It's about an assurance that no matter what happens in the confusing world of relationships, you are there for each other. There to offer support, comfort, a shoulder to lean on, or an ear to listen, without judgement or repercussion.
Consistency means the act of checking in on each other regularly, supporting growth, spending time, and continuing to learn more about each other as growth occurs.
A Conscious Partner offers an easy path to explore relationships; check out The Conscious Quest.
It's about an assurance that no matter what happens in the confusing world of relationships, you are there for each other. There to offer support, comfort, a shoulder to lean on, or an ear to listen, without judgement or repercussion.
Consistency means the act of checking in on each other regularly, supporting growth, spending time, and continuing to learn more about each other as growth occurs.
A Conscious Partner offers an easy path to explore relationships; check out The Conscious Quest.
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