What Does Consistency Mean?
We often hear about how important it is for our WORDS and our ACTIONS to match up,
but as we are all well aware, both words and actions can be manipulated.
Sometimes we say all of the right things, but what is the intent behind what we say?
Are we sincere?
Sometimes we do all of the right things..., technically,
but are we really trying? Are we really putting in the effort?
To be consistent in our lives and relationships,
it is important to align our WORDS with INTENT and our ACTIONS with EFFORT.
but as we are all well aware, both words and actions can be manipulated.
Sometimes we say all of the right things, but what is the intent behind what we say?
Are we sincere?
Sometimes we do all of the right things..., technically,
but are we really trying? Are we really putting in the effort?
To be consistent in our lives and relationships,
it is important to align our WORDS with INTENT and our ACTIONS with EFFORT.
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WORDS / INTENTIONS
Most of us have a natural tendency to say what we think others want to hear or to speak in a "politically correct" way. If we use this same approach in our relationships, it can be confusing, misleading, and in fact, harmful. |
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If we have something that we need to discuss, it's crucial to get to the point so that things can be addressed meaningfully. This doesn’t mean we should be insulting or hurtful in any way; we need to be direct (assertive) so that our partner isn't left trying to figure out what is meant by what we are saying. |
Say What You Mean - Mean What You Say!
If we speak to our partners, but we don’t mean what we say, who are we fooling? At best, we are misleading, and at worst, we are outright lying.
Of course, there are times when we want to be careful to avoid hurt feelings and preserve trust, but that means being diplomatic or "tactful", not misleading.
By meaning what we say, we can build trust in our relationship. It's also much easier to stand behind what we are saying.
Our partner may not always agree with what we are saying, but they will be confident that they are always getting the truth and know where we stand.
Of course, there are times when we want to be careful to avoid hurt feelings and preserve trust, but that means being diplomatic or "tactful", not misleading.
By meaning what we say, we can build trust in our relationship. It's also much easier to stand behind what we are saying.
Our partner may not always agree with what we are saying, but they will be confident that they are always getting the truth and know where we stand.
