What Does Recognition Mean?
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Have you ever asked yourself "Why does this keep happening to me?"
Well, as it turns out, life isn't really being unfair to us and more often than not, it's not anybody else's fault. There is a pretty good chance that we're just being taught a lesson. Is the lesson about gratitude... humility... empathy... or is it a lesson about seeing something from someone else's perspective? It happens to all of us when we try to ignore the lesson that life wants to teach us. We can continue to avoid the lesson or we can "recognize" what is happening, learn the lesson and move forward to the next one! |
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Recognizing takes some self awareness and a little practice and since most of us don't do it consistently, we come to each other with lessons unlearned and challenges unaccepted. We carry with us many things that may be preventing us from moving forward in our life and relationships.
The more quickly we can recognize and start managing these behaviors that inhibit our growth, the healthier we are and the more we have to offer each other. |
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We will always go to our "default" emotions.
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It is important to be aware of our defaults in emotions and behavior, because when growth and change get uncomfortable, we will automatically retreat there. If we react to life the same way, we will likely get the same result.
Does this sound familiar?
"If only "this person" would just change in "this way", then it would be perfect". Most of us don't recognize our part in the situations that we face, so we respond in the way that is "normal" to us. That is why the same things keep happening to us.
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When we are faced with tough or important decisions or choices, it's sometimes a good idea to ask a few questions of ourselves. We should sincerely question our intentions by asking;
"What am I doing?
"Why am I doing it"? "What is it that I want"? "Am I being true to myself"? |
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And the most important question to ask is:
"Why is it the that I am scared of change"?
"Why is it the that I am scared of change"?
The Process of Recognition
Recognition is important for everyone, but those with any of the following characteristics might really benefit from these tools:
Addictions of any kind (Alcohol, drugs, porn, gaming, work, food etc.)
Destructive attention seeking behavior.
Always attracting the same type of people in your life - and the same problems.
Constant “issues” with the people around you - friends, co-workers, superiors, family members.
Eating for emotional reasons - up and down weight gain/loss.
Inability to complete projects due to procrastination or disorganization.
People seem to always take you for granted.
You ignore your own needs while focusing on the needs of others.
Fear... of any number of things - change, rejection, success, failure, illness, abandonment etc.
Destructive attention seeking behavior.
Always attracting the same type of people in your life - and the same problems.
Constant “issues” with the people around you - friends, co-workers, superiors, family members.
Eating for emotional reasons - up and down weight gain/loss.
Inability to complete projects due to procrastination or disorganization.
People seem to always take you for granted.
You ignore your own needs while focusing on the needs of others.
Fear... of any number of things - change, rejection, success, failure, illness, abandonment etc.
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Pay attention to the feelings, to the pain, to the feelings of confusion and maybe even bewilderment that it is happening again.
It's important that we listen to our thoughts. Listen to the messages that the universe is trying to send us. That is the feeling of life trying it's best to teach us a lesson. Learn more about "Listening" |
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We all have been through times in our life that didn't end up being the experience that we were hoping for. Life has a way of throwing these things at us. As much as we might like to block out these negative experiences, we can turn them into positive ones if we can be motivated to examine the past and learn from it.
The reason that we should be looking in the past is because it is the only place that we can look in order to discover the mistakes that we have made that can help us change our future. (We also get to explore our victories and use that too!) Learn more about "Learn From the Past" "Learning From Mistakes" |
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We get to decide how we perceive the "challenges" that we face in our relationships. Challenges are normal. Challenges are a part of life. We can allow them to bring us down, or we can make a small adjustment in our perception and view them as opportunities.
Looking at our challenges from a different perspective allows us the opportunity to see all of the positives that are available to us if we consider all of the options that we have. Learn more about "Opportunities" |
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Recognizing negative patterns can be difficult but the first step is self awareness. If you are hoping to escape your negative relationship patterns, you must keep one simple statement in mind.
There is only one common denominator in every relationship that you have had, and there is only one thing that you can change: Yourself
Learn more about "Recognizing"
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Feeling like we are not in charge of our own lives is an unsettling feeling. Most of us are not even aware that we are acting according to the templates laid out for us by society, friends, family, partners and other pressures from outside forces.
As adults, we get to decide how we want to react to life. Taking charge of our lives starts with taking an honest assessment of where we are at right now, figuring out what adjustments we would like to make and then creating goals that will help us move in the desired direction. Learn more about "Taking Charge" |
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When dealing with our personal issues, how much time do we spend tackling symptoms, rather than dealing with the problems that caused the symptoms to occur?
Most of us either make excuses, which are a symptom of a deeper issue, or we seek to blame others for our shortcomings, even when we know that doesn’t bring us any closer to our goals. Excuses and blame protect our self image as we forego our happiness. Here's a great tool for finding the root cause of almost any issue! "The 5 Whys" Learn more about "Root Cause" |
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Have you ever heard the saying "Playing the victim"? When we don’t own up to our part in any situation we are in, it puts us in the victim role. We are no longer driving the car that is our life, we are in the passenger seat with someone else in control.
There is always an opportunity to place blame on someone else for most of the issues in our lives; our parents, our bosses, our finances, our partners... the list goes on. As adults at what point do we break the cycle? At what point do we recognize what we are doing and take responsibility for ourselves and the choices that we make or don’t make? At what point do we hold ourselves accountable? Learn more about "Playing the Victim" |
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It's important to think about the words we use when we are saying things to ourselves. “It’s not fair” (fair?), “I’m so unlucky” (powerlessness?) or “Since X happened, I can’t be happy or feel good ” (non-acceptance?).
The words that we speak to ourselves are sometimes more damaging than the words we speak to others. Learn more about "Words" "Words2" |
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Know your core values and use them as your guide. Many people think that values are ethics or morals; they are not. Values are what is important to us at our "core". They are what we use subconsciously to determine whether we are living up to our own expectations of life.
Living by our personal values sounds easy, but it's not. First, it requires the knowledge of what our core values are and then it requires a process of conscious thought to analyze our lives and take the steps to follow them. Learn more about "Core Values" "Core Values2" |
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"To thine own self be true" - William Shakespeare
What does it mean? It refers to being faithful and honest to our own interests. It's about being true to ourselves, even when people don't agree with opinions. Pressure from outside forces can be hard to ignore, but it's important for our own happiness to stick to what we firmly believe in. The first step is to recognize exactly what it is that we want and if we aren't getting that, finding out why.
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So What Does All This Mean?
We have all heard the saying: "Forget the past, don’t worry about the future, live in the present."
Yes, there is a lot of truth in that statement, but it's important that we don't simply "forget" about the past, but to "learn" from it. There are many valuable lessons that we can learn if we take the time to recognize our patterns and make adjustments in our lives that lead us towards our values and away from the self sabotaging behaviours that have not served us well in the past. There is a lot that we can all learn from The Conscious Quest!
Yes, there is a lot of truth in that statement, but it's important that we don't simply "forget" about the past, but to "learn" from it. There are many valuable lessons that we can learn if we take the time to recognize our patterns and make adjustments in our lives that lead us towards our values and away from the self sabotaging behaviours that have not served us well in the past. There is a lot that we can all learn from The Conscious Quest!
where would you like to go next ?
Recognition
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Authenticity
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Transparency
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Responsibility
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Consistency
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Acceptance
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If you have found any of this interesting or helpful and would like to learn more, our "Recognition" growthshop is a part of The Conscious Quest and is a great way to have some fun and learn more about how important Recognition is in your life and relationships!
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