Don't Feel Shallow! 

People are going to be attracted to people that they find attractive!

If you are planning for a physical relationship,
then it is essential to be physically attracted to that person.

Many will suggest that  "looks shouldn't matter".
But we all know that they do.

We are not here to tell you what you should find attractive, only that you want to be with or find someone that is attractive to you!

It is up to you to decide what it is that you find attractive. We do not all decide the same way.

The choices vary among individuals, across cultures, across times of life and times in history.

     It's important to remember that  attraction levels can change as we get to know someone.

Someone that may not be attractive initially, can become more attractive to us over time as they reveal their great personality.

The opposite is also true. Somebody very attractive initially can become less attractive over time if they begin to reveal  a personality that is less than desirable.

Attraction leads to passion and connection.
It can make you feel "wanted" and who doesn't like that?

     It can also be a key ingredient to holding things together
during the rough patches that every relationship will go through. 

1 - Overall Appearance

What was your first impression? What is your impression now? If you saw your partner from a distance, would you be attracted to them? If you were to see him/her just walking by on the street...would you take a second glance? Attraction is important in a relationship; however, there are exceptions.
"Is overall appearance related to divorce rates?"

2 - Style of Dress

How does your partner dress? Sure there are clothes for lounging, clothes for going out and clothes for working in the yard, but how does your partner dress when it matters to you? When you are together in public, are you maybe a little embarrassed of what your partner has decided to wear? Having a similar taste and idea of how to dress can important in a relationship.
Learn more about "Style."

3 - Height

Regardless of whether you feel it is right or wrong, the height of your partner can matter!  Do you have a partner height in mind that you find either more or less attractive?

There is no right answer for everyone...only for you! Learn more about "Height."

4 - Body Type

Another superficial but significant factor is body type. Some people care a little, some care not at all, and others care a lot. What is your opinion on body type? If you do have an opinion, does your own body meet the same standard as what you seek? This factor is far more important in the initial stages of a relationship than it is as time goes on. Age has a way of catching up on everyone! "Body Type Attraction"

5 - Fitness/Activity Level

Let's face it, if one partner wants to spend a lot of time walking, hiking and stand up paddle boarding and the other partner lives a very sedentary life...it is not likely going to be a great match. It is important to any relationship that you spend some leisure time together, so finding a partner that appreciates your activity level is a major component!   What is your opinion?   Learn more about "Fitness."

6 - Voice

Are you attracted to your partners voice? Can you get turned on listening to them read the weather report? It seems that that vocal cues can help others make judgments about more than just your sex. From your voice, someone can get an understanding of things like you emotional state, your dominance, your age, your cooperativeness, your physical strength and maybe even your fertility!  Is voice important to you? Learn more about "Voice."

7 - Body Art

Body art, jewelry, piercings, physical modifications....Do you like them? Hate them? No opinion? Do you both have the same outlook moving forward? This is another one of those areas that can change over time, so be sure to understand each others long term views.  Learn more about "Tattoos."

8 - Scent

Our scent may not whip potential mates into a lustful frenzy, but smells might play a role in what makes one person find another attractive. Do you look forward to the "scent" of your partner? Is there something about their scent that you are not attracted to? Learn more about "Scent."

9 - Health

Although overall health is not always something you can "see", it is a physical quality and can have both short term and long term implications on a relationship. Does you partner have any current health issues? Are there any hereditary health factors to worry about?  "Dating someone chronically ill"

10 - Other Features

There are many other features which can be the point of focus for some people.  The sparkle in the eyes, the smile, the teeth, the hair, the hands, the fingers, the feet, the shoulders, or maybe even the way they walk!  Does your partner have the features that you seek?
Learn more about "Attraction."

So What Does All This Mean?

  Physical attraction is simply a desire that is triggered at a biological level, so you can't help but notice people who are "pleasant to look at."  That is why the Entertainment industry is full of attractive people (and even some that are less attractive!). 

   While physical attraction can make you look, if you are in search of desire and commitment there is far more than just physical attraction...it's just one step.

  Many people forego the physical attraction and may even live with little or no sexual relations, but that doesn't mean that intimacy doesn't exist. These relationships are based on other factors such as companionship or security.  There are lots of options and possibilities.

   If physical attraction is not a deal breaker, then you have far more options available to you! Keep in mind, physical attraction is only one of the 8 Conscious Connections. That's only 12.5%.

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