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What Does Responsibility Mean?
Responsibility refers to taking responsibility for our lives with the understanding that we have complete power and control over how we think, feel, speak and act.
Our thoughts come from our mind. Our feelings come from our body and are based on our thoughts. The words that we speak come from our mouth, use of our voice, and are based on our thoughts and perceptions. Ultimately, we take actions based on all of the above. |
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What this means is that regardless of what we may think, or how hard someone may try, nobody can make us think, feel, say, or do anything. That doesn't mean that their words and actions may not change our perceptions, but we get to decide that.
Just as important, we don’t have any control over what others may think, say, feel, or do. Their thoughts, feelings, words, and actions are based on their perceptions. Our words and actions may have them adjusting their perceptions, but once again, that is for them to decide. |
It's Easier to Blame Than it is to Accept Responsibility!
When something doesn't go quite the way that we want or expect, for many of us, our first thought is trying to figure out whose "fault" it is.
Some people can always find somebody else to blame, and at the other extreme, is the person who will blame themselves for everything even if they had no role in or control of the outcome.
If there is nobody here on earth that could possibly be at fault, then we start looking at fate, the "Universe" or a Higher Power as the cause of our troubles.
Some people can always find somebody else to blame, and at the other extreme, is the person who will blame themselves for everything even if they had no role in or control of the outcome.
If there is nobody here on earth that could possibly be at fault, then we start looking at fate, the "Universe" or a Higher Power as the cause of our troubles.
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Blame is the best defense mechanism that there is. It helps us preserve our self-esteem while we get to avoid exposing a personal flaw. Blame is "disempowering". When we blame yourself for the state of our lives, we are telling ourselves the lie that we aren’t in charge. We become a victim of our circumstances. We give away our power. |
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Excuses?
Making excuses is similar to blaming others, except it involves blaming circumstances instead of people. Success or failure, in almost any particular goal, is usually on us regardless of external circumstances. If we can learn to take responsibility and recognize this, we are more likely to take the necessary actions to succeed. |
The Process of Responsibility
We must learn to accept the responsibility for our actions, be accountable for our results, and take ownership of our mistakes and failures.
Yes, other people and factors do influence some of the results, but we are responsible for how we respond. It means accepting that some of our own actions may have led us to the predicament in which we find ourselves, whether we like it or not.
The good news is that it also means celebrating and being proud of ourselves when we do something great!
Yes, other people and factors do influence some of the results, but we are responsible for how we respond. It means accepting that some of our own actions may have led us to the predicament in which we find ourselves, whether we like it or not.
The good news is that it also means celebrating and being proud of ourselves when we do something great!
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It's a lot easier to do nothing than it is to do something. It's easier to keep everything the way it is and not "rock the boat" than it is to start making changes and adjustments that might be a bit "scary" in our lives.
Not taking responsibility is easier; it's less demanding; it's less painful. It's comfortable. When we don't take responsibility for our lives, we give away our power. We give up control of our lives to someone else. We can blame problems in our lives on someone else, but is that a price that we want to pay? Learn more about "Refusing Status Quo." |
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It's easy to blame. It's easy to make excuses and to convince ourselves that outside forces are manipulating our fate. Life is easier if we don't have to put in the effort to make changes and adjustments.
Circumstances, the past, the environment, other people, society..., there are lots of ways we can get "off the hook" when we are unwilling to examine ourselves and seek out the patterns in our lives that we can adjust to enable change. Learn more about "Blaming" |
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A lack of self-esteem often comes from a lack of self-confidence. A lack of self-confidence occurs when we do not believe in our abilities, and we give up control of our lives to someone else. When we are in a position to blame our failures on other people and outside forces, we give up our power.
On the flip side, taking back responsibility gives us control over our lives; it gives us confidence and it builds self-esteem. A healthy self-esteem develops when we know our personal value and self-worth, and when we make a commitment to take responsibility for ourselves, and we stop trying to please the world! Learn more about (Responsibility = Self Esteem) |
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It's important that we have a desire to be the best version of ourselves. Its' not easy, but the rewards are amazing! What does this mean?
It means taking control of our lives. It means taking action even if we may not feel like it. It means recognizing our self-defeating behaviours. It means stop making excuses, control our defensiveness, acknowledge our mistakes, listen to feedback, and take it seriously. Learn more about "Be Your Best" |
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We all have options. Every day we are faced with a variety of choices that we have to make - clothes to wear, food to eat, how we are going to respond, and so on.
When we make mistakes, we then tend to pull out the "I had no choice" excuse. Yes, there are times when our options may be limited, but we always have choices. When we give up responsibility for our choices, we give away our power. Taking responsibility means considering all of the options, making decisions, and standing by them. Learn more about "Options" |
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We all have options to choose from. Being responsible means doing our best to choose wisely when we make those choices. It also means accepting the results of our choices and moving on when we make a mistake!
We make good choices when we have a vision or a goal in mind. It might be to improve a relationship, lose 20 lbs, or earn more money. Whatever our goal is, when we are faced with choices that may impact that goal, we must ask ourselves, "Is this choice moving me closer to or further away from my goals"? Learn more about "Choosing Wisely" |
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It's easy to jump to the conclusion that something is about us, even when it's not. In almost every case, people aren't rude because of us. Usually, it's that they are dealing with something unsettling within themselves. The person honking their horn behind you doesn't even know you. The rude staff at the store may be having a really bad day; we just don't know.
We don’t have control over how other people act; we only have control over how we respond. Taking responsibility means doing our best not to take things personally. A good question to ask ourselves, “Is this about me, or is it this about something else?” Learn more about "It's Not Personal" |
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The term "self-care" gets thrown around a lot, and many assume it means taking care of yourself physically. Well, there is another side to self-care, the mental side. An important part of that mental side and taking care of ourselves means taking a look at the people whom we hang out with, our "friends".
What kinds of people do we surround ourselves with? Do they speak negatively all the time? Do they have negative patterns or behaviours? Do they have the same core values? Goals? Dreams? "We become like those with whom we associate ". Be selective! Learn more about "Be Selective" |
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It's great to take responsibility for your life, it is the only thing you can control.
You can't control the outcomes of your actions. You can't control how someone reacts or responds to what you say or what you do. It's important to know your limits. Otherwise, you'll create a lot of unnecessary suffering for yourself, waste energy, and focus by taking responsibility for what you can't and never really could control. Learn more about "Know Your Limits" |
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Do thoughts really become actions? Well, they can, but not without responsibility. We can think about all of the great things we want to do or accomplish, but none of it will happen unless we accept the responsibility of putting a plan into action.
Conversely, when we become accustomed to being responsible, our ability to take action becomes something that happens naturally! We don't get stuck in only thinking, hoping, and wishing for things to change. It's the difference between being proactive and being passive. Learn more about "Activating" |
So What Does All This Mean?
Taking responsibility for your life is one of the key steps to becoming the best version of who you want to be.
We are all capable of taking responsibility and living the best life we possibly can.
The key is to catch ourselves when we start blaming other people and instead focus on what we can control: Our actions.
The Conscious Quest is where we can discover and explore more about being Responsible.
We are all capable of taking responsibility and living the best life we possibly can.
The key is to catch ourselves when we start blaming other people and instead focus on what we can control: Our actions.
The Conscious Quest is where we can discover and explore more about being Responsible.
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