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We all likely know someone, (or maybe it was you!), that just decided one day that they were ready to start dating and hoped for the best. Did it work?
We also likely know someone (or once again... maybe it's you!) that has given up on dating of any kind because "There is nobody decent out there!" |
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Dating unconsciously is a little like deciding one day to climb Mount Everest and then booking the flight to Nepal to see what happens.
It's not that we don't have the ability to succeed, or that it can't be done, we run into difficulty because we have not properly prepared ourselves for the journey and we are not fully aware of what we will be facing along the way. |
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Dating consciously is about dating with awareness and preparation. It's about approaching the entire dating process very thoughtfully and deliberately.
Just like on Mount Everest, there is no guarantee that you will reach the top the first time, but what you learn along the way is what will prepare you for the next attempt! |
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be COMMITTED
It's important to be COMMITTED to the process. This means being willing to take the time and make the effort to learn more about yourself. It means committing to learn about your personality, understand how to fight fairly, take responsibility for your past and accepting who you are and why you are here. It means treating others like you want to be treated. Read More - "The 6 Conscious Principles" "The 8 Conscious Connections" |
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try to date ORGANICALLY
Wouldn't it be great to meet someone ORGANICALLY. Online dating is to dating what prepackaged frozen food is to eating. It leaves you feeling unsatisfied and questioning why you did it in the first place. A Conscious Partner is moving forward developing an organic way of meeting people and hope to be in all parts of the country before long. If you would like to help, let us know! Contact Us "Yes, I would like a growthshop in my area" "The Conscious Quest" |
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sometimes say NEVER
There are some things that you should NEVER do. The world of dating is a relatively safe and fun place to be. There are lots of good people out there, so it is important to understand when you have discovered someone worth learning about but also recognizing when you are faced with a situation that you need to get out of. Read More - "Do's and Don'ts 1." "Do's and Don'ts 2." "Do's and Don'ts 3." "Red Flags 1." "Red Flags 2." "Red Flags 3." |
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understand SPIRITUALITY
Many people think that SPIRITUALITY is about religion. It is not. Spirituality is a very broad concept that incorporates a vast array of very personal ideals. Religion has rules and repercussions; spirituality does not. Religion tells you what the truth is as experienced by others, while spirituality is whatever you discover using your own experience. It's import to understand your own Spirituality. Read More - "Spirituality" |
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CORE Values
How many times have you heard...or said yourself – “So, what do you like to do in your free time”, or something to that effect? We spend so much time looking for someone that is attractive to us and has similar interests, and that is our first mistake. Long term relationships rarely result from people who have "similar interests". That's because as we get older, our interests often change, and if that is what we have in common, then there is a good chance that we will "grow apart". Great relationships are formed when two people have similar Core Values. Make sure that you know your own core values and do your best to discover the core values of the people that you are dating! Learn more - "Values vs Interests" "Values 2" "Values 3" |
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what are your INTENTIONS?
So what exactly are your INTENTIONS? What are you really looking for? What do you really want? So many people project what they "think" they should say and what they think others want to hear, instead of understanding what is really wanted. Of course most people want a long term relationship, but is that what they are really looking for right at the start? Read More - "Dating with intention" |
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be OPEN to possibilities
It's important to be OPEN to the possibilities. How many times have we all heard people say that they keep making the same mistakes when dating. Maybe it's time to take some chances and throw away the "lists" and just start meeting people for who they are. It's not necessary to think about the long term right from the start. Read More - "Dating outside your type" "Dating Casually" |
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try to UNDERSTAND
Do we really UNDERSTAND each other? Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. The 5 Love Languages. Men are logical, women are emotional. It's not really that simple. The first step is to understand yourself... do you know your personality? We are all complex in our own way and understanding each other is the key to developing and growing a solid long term relationship. Read More - "Your Personality" "Understanding Men" "Understanding Women" |
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SEX - It's okay to talk about it!
SEX is one of the most exciting and complicated parts of any relationship, yet it is often considered a "taboo" subject early in the process and a delicate subject moving forward. Let's take the mystery away. We need to understand the 4F's Foreplay, Fetishes, Fantasies and Frequency, and how discussing them early will help you make decisions not just about who you want to date, but who will match up with you for the long term! Read More - "The Sexual Connection" |
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it will be DIFFICULT
This is going to be HARD. Part of being "conscious" is to understand that this is not going to be easy... but it will be worth it. The hard part is the adjustments that you will likely need to make in your awareness and communication skills. If you decide to try online dating, yes you will meet more people, but you will also meet a number of people that may not be ready...or even trying to be. Read More - "Online Dating" "6 Ugly Truths" "The Emotional Roller Coaster" |
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ALLOW time
Take the TIME that you need. If you have been in a previous relationship and want to start dating, it might take anywhere from 1-6 months for every year of your last relationship to be ready for another relationship. There are no hard and fast rules, and there are exceptions to any and every rule, but the point is you must free yourself entirely from your previous relationship before making a real commitment to your next one. |
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be TRANSPARENT
Be TRANSPARENT with yourself, with others and with the process. It's important to really accept who you are, where you at in the dating process, why you are single and what you really are looking for in a relationship. Whether you are separated, divorced, widowed, or just starting out, it's important to be transparent and honest with yourself in every way. Read More - "Transparency" "Acceptance." |
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INVESTIGATE
Be sure to investigate everything about yourself and any new partner. Understand your attachment style. Your lifestyle. Your sexual style, and be sure to learn about theirs. The hardest thing to do in any relationship is to not be yourself. Sure, you can do it short term in an effort to "please" your partner, but over time, resentment will build and the relationship will suffer. Make yourself aware of who you are, so that you can live honestly and authentically. Read More - "Lifestyle Differences" "Attachment Style" "Sexual Style" |
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live in the NOW
Be mindful that this is a journey and that it is important that when you are dating that you have let go of the past and are making a conscious effort to be yourself and meet people for who they are today. We all have a past and we all have made mistakes and hopefully learned from them. Leave the past behind and live for today and hope that you can find someone that will love and respect you for who you are right now. Read More "Living Now" |
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GIVE UP the chase
When we "chase" a relationship, we tend to act in ways that are not authentic to who we are. We are trying to attract someone else or fit into their life. It's important that we live our own lives and be who we want to be, because that is how we will attract the person that is truly attracted to who we are. If you want to chase something... Chase Growth. "The Conscious Quest" |
So what does all this mean?
The idea behind dating consciously is to devote our time and efforts in to attracting the right person rather than having our relationship emulate something that we see in a movie. To use breakups as a lesson rather than identify it as a failure. To recognize our patterns, make adjustments and know when to let go.
Read More - "How Conscious Dating Can Revolutionize Your Relationship"
Read More - "How Conscious Dating Can Revolutionize Your Relationship"
Would you like help Online Dating?
All of the information on this site is free, but if you would like to improve your dating experience, we do offer a service that will make a difference. A Conscious Dating Coach. If you are dating and would like some help to start the process of dating "consciously" and change your results and , please "Contact Us".
